Using Books to Help Children Cope
Through books and stories, children learn how to cope with emotions
such as fear and jealousy. Books can also help children deal with
stressful experiences like starting school or moving to a new
neighborhood. Children often identify strongly with storybook
characters. They can work through their own problems by reading
about others' similar problems and solutions. Children take comfort
in knowing they are not alone.
Once you find a book at the library or bookstore, read it yourself
before sharing it with your child. Decide if you think it will help
your child make sense out of his or her feelings. Books can be a
way for you and your child to talk about things. Here are some
other ideas:
- Ask the librarian for suggestions.
- Select books about a problem or emotion similar to what your
child is going through.
- Do not force your child to read or listen to a story. Mention
that the book is about a character dealing with a certain problem
or feeling. It is usually best not to tell your child that the
storybook character "is just like you". Older children often
resist being told by a parent to read a certain book. Instead,
leave books on topics like divorce, death, or sex education out
where they can see them.
- Your child may want to read the book over and over again. He or
she needs time to absorb how the character deals with things.
Your child also needs to think about how the problem and solution
might personally apply.
- Talk with your child about the problems and concerns of the
book's main character. Tell your child stories about your
childhood when you felt vulnerable, scared, excited, or
disappointed.
- Listen to your child's view of the feelings and expectations of
the main character.
- Stop to answer all of the questions your child asks. Talking
with your child is as important as the story itself.
Written by Donna Warner Manczak, PhD, MPH.
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